I found this book while looking for books on reactive attachment disorder (RAD) which is a diagnosis that has affected our family. As I read this story I was just amazed at how much the author’s story was similar to our child’s story.
I realize there is a lot of controversy about RAD and I’m not even sure if I accept it as a diagnosis. Â But I so appreciated this view from the other side. Â Our story was so similar that at times I had to stop reading so I could start breathing again.
You can clearly trace how the trauma, neglect and loss in the author’s life created an environment where he couldn’t trust anyone and eventually stopped trying. Â But his parents kept trying (they obviously got some of the same advice we were given) to help him. Â Finally he ended up out of their home and realized he was responsible for how he handled his anger and disappointment.
The book made me sad in that I didn’t see his relationship with his parents really improved but I do see it in our family so I hope he finds that too. Â He does recognize they did their best and that is something I pray our son realizes too.
This is my first post in the Adoption Talk Link Up. Â Every first and third Â Thursday of the month bloggers in the adoption triad post and link up on various topics. Today’s topic was “Anything Goes”. Â Click on the graphic below to read more!