{"id":1131,"date":"2008-04-15T10:13:07","date_gmt":"2008-04-15T17:13:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=1131"},"modified":"2008-04-15T11:49:26","modified_gmt":"2008-04-15T18:49:26","slug":"curious-or-just-rude","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=1131","title":{"rendered":"Curious or just rude?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Even though I&#8217;m shy and an introvert, I&#8217;m a pretty open person.  Pretty much, with me, what you see is what you get.  I&#8217;ve talked freely about my infertility, adoptions and grief.  I&#8217;ve always felt like &#8216;if you want to know, then I want to tell you&#8217;.  I believe that I have a responsibility to educate people about infertility, adoption and grief.  I want to make sure my friends and family understand the truth about these things so they can combat the myths that are out there.<\/p>\n<p>But I&#8217;ve really been puzzled lately.  I have been bombarded by strangers and acquaintances asking the most intimate questions.  They ask about the foster home &#8211; like they are looking for something wrong!  They ask about our &#8216;tummy mommy&#8217; &#8211; right in front of my kids!!  After I tell them JGirl&#8217;s name, they ask what her birthmom named her!  Don&#8217;t they understand that if I didn&#8217;t already tell them, it&#8217;s not their business?!?<\/p>\n<p>I understand people are curious &#8211; but why do strangers and acquaintances think they have ANY right to ask these questions?<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t worry &#8211; I&#8217;m coming up with some stock replies.  I&#8217;m tired of giving answers I&#8217;m not comfortable with because I can&#8217;t think of anything else to say!  If you have some suggestions (and I know there are some VERY experienced mommies reading this blog) &#8211; please feel free to give them to me!<\/p>\n<p>Hmm&#8230;just wondering&#8230;is this something other mommies deal with?  Are you having complete strangers\/acquaintances ask you intimate questions about your family and children?  Is it our culture?  Does the reality tv generation feel like it&#8217;s the norm to be told everything about their neighbors?<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Edited to add &#8211; NO one who reads my blog has asked a question like this &#8211; either in real life or online.\u00c2\u00a0 These are truly people I have just met or barely know.\u00c2\u00a0 Just in case anyone was worrying! \ud83d\ude09<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<div class=\"sharedaddy sd-sharing-enabled\"><div class=\"robots-nocontent sd-block sd-social sd-social-official sd-sharing\"><h3 class=\"sd-title\">Share this:<\/h3><div class=\"sd-content\"><ul><li class=\"share-facebook\"><div class=\"fb-share-button\" data-href=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=1131\" data-layout=\"button_count\"><\/div><\/li><li class=\"share-pinterest\"><div class=\"pinterest_button\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pinterest.com\/pin\/create\/button\/?url=http%3A%2F%2Fosbornz.net%2Famy%2F%3Fp%3D1131&#038;media=http%3A%2F%2Fosbornz.net%2Famy%2Fwp-content%2Fuploads%2F2014%2F10%2Fcropped-poppy-150x150.jpg&#038;description=Curious%20or%20just%20rude%3F\" data-pin-do=\"buttonPin\" data-pin-config=\"beside\"><img src=\"\/\/assets.pinterest.com\/images\/pidgets\/pinit_fg_en_rect_gray_20.png\" \/><\/a><\/div><\/li><li class=\"share-twitter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/share\" class=\"twitter-share-button\" data-url=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=1131\" data-text=\"Curious or just rude?\" data-via=\"Knitnmom\" >Tweet<\/a><\/li><li class=\"share-tumblr\"><a class=\"tumblr-share-button\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tumblr.com\/share\" data-title=\"Curious or just rude?\" data-content=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=1131\" title=\"Share on Tumblr\"data-posttype=\"link\">Share on Tumblr<\/a><\/li><li class=\"share-print\"><a rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\" data-shared=\"\" class=\"share-print sd-button\" href=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=1131\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Click to print\" ><span>Print<\/span><\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#\" class=\"sharing-anchor sd-button share-more\"><span>More<\/span><\/a><\/li><li class=\"share-end\"><\/li><\/ul><div class=\"sharing-hidden\"><div class=\"inner\" style=\"display: none;width:150px;\"><ul style=\"background-image:none;\"><li class=\"share-email\"><a rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\" data-shared=\"\" class=\"share-email sd-button\" href=\"mailto:?subject=%5BShared%20Post%5D%20Curious%20or%20just%20rude%3F&body=http%3A%2F%2Fosbornz.net%2Famy%2F%3Fp%3D1131&share=email\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Click to email a link to a friend\" data-email-share-error-title=\"Do you have email set up?\" data-email-share-error-text=\"If you&#039;re having problems sharing via email, you might not have email set up for your browser. 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