{"id":13221,"date":"2016-04-06T12:00:53","date_gmt":"2016-04-06T20:00:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=13221"},"modified":"2016-03-25T15:09:15","modified_gmt":"2016-03-25T23:09:15","slug":"book-review-detached-surviving-reactive-attachment-disorder","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=13221","title":{"rendered":"Book Review &#8211; Detached: Surviving Reactive Attachment Disorder"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/13740682.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-13271\"><img data-attachment-id=\"13271\" data-permalink=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?attachment_id=13271\" data-orig-file=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/13740682.jpg\" data-orig-size=\"267,400\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"13740682\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/13740682-200x300.jpg\" data-large-file=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/13740682.jpg\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-13271 alignleft\" src=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/13740682-200x300.jpg\" alt=\"13740682\" width=\"200\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/13740682-200x300.jpg 200w, http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/13740682.jpg 267w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 200px) 100vw, 200px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>I found this <a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Detached-Surviving-Reactive-Attachment-Disorder--ebook\/dp\/B006G0V9AS\/ref=sr_1_2?s=digital-text&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1457906588&amp;sr=1-2&amp;keywords=detached\" target=\"_blank\">book<\/a> while looking for books on reactive attachment disorder (RAD) which is a diagnosis that has affected our family. As I read this story I was just amazed at how much the author&#8217;s story was similar to our child&#8217;s story.<\/p>\n<p>I realize there is a lot of controversy about RAD and I&#8217;m not even sure if I accept it as a diagnosis. \u00c2\u00a0But I so appreciated this view from the other side. \u00c2\u00a0 Our story was so similar that at times I had to stop reading so I could start breathing again.<\/p>\n<p>You can clearly trace how the trauma, neglect and loss in the author&#8217;s life created an environment where he couldn&#8217;t trust anyone and eventually stopped trying. \u00c2\u00a0But his parents kept trying (they obviously got some of the same advice we were given) to help him. \u00c2\u00a0Finally he ended up out of their home and realized he was responsible for how he handled his anger and disappointment.<\/p>\n<p>The book made me sad in that I didn&#8217;t see his relationship with his parents really improved but I do see it in our family so I hope he finds that too. \u00c2\u00a0He does recognize they did their best and that is something I pray our son realizes too.<\/p>\n<p>This is my first post in the Adoption Talk Link Up. \u00c2\u00a0Every first and third \u00c2\u00a0Thursday of the month bloggers in the adoption triad post and link up on various topics. Today&#8217;s topic was &#8220;Anything Goes&#8221;. \u00c2\u00a0Click on the graphic below to read more!<\/p>\n<div align=\"center\"><a title=\"No Bohns About It\" href=\"http:\/\/www.nobohnsaboutit.com\"><img decoding=\"async\" style=\"border: none;\" src=\"http:\/\/www.nobohnsaboutit.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/AdoptionTalkButton2016-e1452013232524.jpg\" alt=\"No Bohns About It\" \/><\/a><\/div>\n<div class=\"sharedaddy sd-sharing-enabled\"><div class=\"robots-nocontent sd-block sd-social sd-social-official sd-sharing\"><h3 class=\"sd-title\">Share this:<\/h3><div class=\"sd-content\"><ul><li class=\"share-facebook\"><div class=\"fb-share-button\" data-href=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=13221\" data-layout=\"button_count\"><\/div><\/li><li class=\"share-pinterest\"><div class=\"pinterest_button\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pinterest.com\/pin\/create\/button\/?url=http%3A%2F%2Fosbornz.net%2Famy%2F%3Fp%3D13221&#038;media=http%3A%2F%2Fosbornz.net%2Famy%2Fwp-content%2Fuploads%2F2016%2F03%2F13740682-200x300.jpg&#038;description=Book%20Review%20-%20Detached%3A%20Surviving%20Reactive%20Attachment%20Disorder\" data-pin-do=\"buttonPin\" data-pin-config=\"beside\"><img src=\"\/\/assets.pinterest.com\/images\/pidgets\/pinit_fg_en_rect_gray_20.png\" \/><\/a><\/div><\/li><li class=\"share-twitter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/share\" class=\"twitter-share-button\" data-url=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=13221\" data-text=\"Book Review - Detached: Surviving Reactive Attachment Disorder\" data-via=\"Knitnmom\" >Tweet<\/a><\/li><li class=\"share-tumblr\"><a class=\"tumblr-share-button\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tumblr.com\/share\" data-title=\"Book Review - Detached: Surviving Reactive Attachment Disorder\" data-content=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=13221\" title=\"Share on Tumblr\"data-posttype=\"link\">Share on Tumblr<\/a><\/li><li class=\"share-print\"><a rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\" data-shared=\"\" class=\"share-print sd-button\" href=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=13221\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Click to print\" ><span>Print<\/span><\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#\" class=\"sharing-anchor sd-button share-more\"><span>More<\/span><\/a><\/li><li class=\"share-end\"><\/li><\/ul><div class=\"sharing-hidden\"><div class=\"inner\" style=\"display: none;width:150px;\"><ul style=\"background-image:none;\"><li class=\"share-email\"><a rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\" data-shared=\"\" class=\"share-email sd-button\" href=\"mailto:?subject=%5BShared%20Post%5D%20Book%20Review%20-%20Detached%3A%20Surviving%20Reactive%20Attachment%20Disorder&body=http%3A%2F%2Fosbornz.net%2Famy%2F%3Fp%3D13221&share=email\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Click to email a link to a friend\" data-email-share-error-title=\"Do you have email set up?\" data-email-share-error-text=\"If you&#039;re having problems sharing via email, you might not have email set up for your browser. 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