{"id":239,"date":"2005-08-25T13:26:21","date_gmt":"2005-08-25T20:26:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=239"},"modified":"2005-08-25T13:26:21","modified_gmt":"2005-08-25T20:26:21","slug":"please-say-their-name","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=239","title":{"rendered":"Please say their name"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I found this on another <a href=\"http:\/\/journalingthroughthevalley.blogspot.com\/2005\/08\/please-say-their-names.html\">grieving mom&#8217;s site<\/a> &#8211; it&#8217;s so perfectly true:<br \/>\nPLEASE, SAY THEIR NAMES <\/p>\n<p>Go ahead and mention my child,<br \/>\nThe one that died, you know.<br \/>\nDon&#8217;t worry about hurting me further.<br \/>\nThe depth of my pain doesn&#8217;t show.<br \/>\nDon&#8217;t worry about making me cry.<br \/>\nI&#8217;m already crying inside.<br \/>\nHelp me to heal by releasing<br \/>\nThe tears that I try to hide.<br \/>\nI&#8217;m hurt when you just keep silent,<br \/>\nPretending he didn&#8217;t exist.<br \/>\nI&#8217;d rather you mention my child,<br \/>\nKnowing that he has been missed.<br \/>\nYou asked me how I am doing.<br \/>\nI say &#8220;pretty good&#8221; or &#8220;fine.&#8221;<br \/>\nBut healing is something ongoing.<br \/>\nI feel it will take a lifetime.<\/p>\n<p>By Elizabeth Dent <\/p>\n<div class=\"sharedaddy sd-sharing-enabled\"><div class=\"robots-nocontent sd-block sd-social sd-social-official sd-sharing\"><h3 class=\"sd-title\">Share this:<\/h3><div class=\"sd-content\"><ul><li class=\"share-facebook\"><div class=\"fb-share-button\" data-href=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=239\" data-layout=\"button_count\"><\/div><\/li><li class=\"share-pinterest\"><div class=\"pinterest_button\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pinterest.com\/pin\/create\/button\/?url=http%3A%2F%2Fosbornz.net%2Famy%2F%3Fp%3D239&#038;media=http%3A%2F%2Fosbornz.net%2Famy%2Fwp-content%2Fuploads%2F2014%2F10%2Fcropped-poppy-150x150.jpg&#038;description=Please%20say%20their%20name\" data-pin-do=\"buttonPin\" data-pin-config=\"beside\"><img src=\"\/\/assets.pinterest.com\/images\/pidgets\/pinit_fg_en_rect_gray_20.png\" \/><\/a><\/div><\/li><li class=\"share-twitter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/share\" class=\"twitter-share-button\" data-url=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=239\" data-text=\"Please say their name\" data-via=\"Knitnmom\" >Tweet<\/a><\/li><li class=\"share-tumblr\"><a class=\"tumblr-share-button\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tumblr.com\/share\" data-title=\"Please say their name\" data-content=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=239\" title=\"Share on Tumblr\"data-posttype=\"link\">Share on Tumblr<\/a><\/li><li class=\"share-print\"><a rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\" data-shared=\"\" class=\"share-print sd-button\" href=\"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=239\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Click to print\" ><span>Print<\/span><\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#\" class=\"sharing-anchor sd-button share-more\"><span>More<\/span><\/a><\/li><li class=\"share-end\"><\/li><\/ul><div class=\"sharing-hidden\"><div class=\"inner\" style=\"display: none;width:150px;\"><ul style=\"background-image:none;\"><li class=\"share-email\"><a rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\" data-shared=\"\" class=\"share-email sd-button\" href=\"mailto:?subject=%5BShared%20Post%5D%20Please%20say%20their%20name&body=http%3A%2F%2Fosbornz.net%2Famy%2F%3Fp%3D239&share=email\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Click to email a link to a friend\" data-email-share-error-title=\"Do you have email set up?\" data-email-share-error-text=\"If you&#039;re having problems sharing via email, you might not have email set up for your browser. 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