{"id":2836,"date":"2009-09-29T07:48:22","date_gmt":"2009-09-29T14:48:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=2836"},"modified":"2009-09-29T08:15:31","modified_gmt":"2009-09-29T15:15:31","slug":"whats-been-happening-at-our-house","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=2836","title":{"rendered":"What’s been happening at our house"},"content":{"rendered":"

Many of you know that our children are all adopted (with the exception of Joshua) and were all born addicted to Meth & Lord only knows what else.\u00c2\u00a0 A few weeks ago I was interviewed for a foster parenting podcast as our children were in foster care before we adopted them.\u00c2\u00a0 I spoke in there about what I learned about drug exposure in eutro.\u00c2\u00a0 Well, someone commented on their site that I was making too light of FAE – Fetal Alcohol Effects (commonly referred to now as FASD – Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder).\u00c2\u00a0 When I read their comment I thought, well, it’s only been mentioned once and in relation to the kid that has given me the LEAST of problems over the years.<\/p>\n

But then Saturday night we had to bring home one of our son’s early from his sleepover because in helping his brother’s change the sheets in their room we found that he had stolen some things from me and was hiding them in his bed.\u00c2\u00a0 This is an ongoing problem that we’ve been facing (along with others).\u00c2\u00a0 We’ve been seeing a therapist for months now – he’s gone individually for a few months and finally Eric & I have been going too.\u00c2\u00a0 We’ve come up with plans and replanned and regrouped and so on.\u00c2\u00a0 We figured out that this last offense happened just an hour or so after our last therapy appt.\u00c2\u00a0 It sort of brought home that this isn’t working.<\/p>\n

And, his response to being found out?\u00c2\u00a0 No remorse.\u00c2\u00a0 No guilt.\u00c2\u00a0 No.\u00c2\u00a0 He’s angry at us.\u00c2\u00a0 He rages.\u00c2\u00a0 He’s defiant.\u00c2\u00a0 He’s yelling and using bad language.<\/p>\n

So, that night – I stayed up very late praying.\u00c2\u00a0 I felt like everything we were doing was a joke.\u00c2\u00a0 I asked God for direction and wisdom.\u00c2\u00a0 And I remembered that commenter’s mention of FAE.\u00c2\u00a0 So I turned on my laptop and did some research.\u00c2\u00a0 And it really seems that this might be what we are dealing with.\u00c2\u00a0 And, it means that we need more serious help.\u00c2\u00a0 So after visiting his pediatrician yesterday and talking to his therapist, we are calling a psychiatrist today to get some more serious help.<\/p>\n

Please pray for us.\u00c2\u00a0 Please pray we can help him understand what is happening and why.\u00c2\u00a0 Please pray for us as we look at our other 3 children and wonder about how this affects them too.\u00c2\u00a0 Please pray for us to have strength, wisdom and patience.<\/p>\n

And please praise the Lord for his comfort and grace and that we are NOT alone!\u00c2\u00a0 Sunday in church I was able to connect with another mom who has dealt with this but now her daughter is grown up.\u00c2\u00a0 Julie was such a blessing in that moment and has committed to coming to my house once a week to take the kids for a few hours to give me a chance to be refreshed.\u00c2\u00a0 Even typing this up now makes me tear up that she would help in such a way.\u00c2\u00a0 I pray that I can bless someone similarly when I am in that Season.<\/p>\n

I think the hardest part for me right now is not knowing exactly how our lives will change…but knowing that it must and that it HAS to get better.\u00c2\u00a0 It’s sort of scary right now.<\/p>\n

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