{"id":9542,"date":"2013-01-16T07:39:26","date_gmt":"2013-01-16T14:39:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=9542"},"modified":"2013-01-16T07:39:26","modified_gmt":"2013-01-16T14:39:26","slug":"9542","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/osbornz.net\/amy\/?p=9542","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Many of you know we have been having a very rough time in our home for many years. \u00c2\u00a0We love our kids to bits, but they aren&#8217;t easy to parent. \u00c2\u00a0Over time you start to believe that these struggles are your fault. \u00c2\u00a0And this is reinforced by every book, every &#8216;helper&#8217;, everyone who doesn&#8217;t understand what you are living with. \u00c2\u00a0Hell, you don&#8217;t understand it, how can someone outside your home understand it.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, there are labels, but a label doesn&#8217;t come with a fix or an answer. \u00c2\u00a0And, there are medications, but those don&#8217;t always help but might, in fact, cause bigger problems.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes I feel so alone. \u00c2\u00a0I honestly quit sharing because I was tired of the &#8216;just love\/pray\/believe\/do\/try more&#8217; comments. \u00c2\u00a0And, then I stumbled upon some blogs during the darkest days that helped me realize I am not alone.<\/p>\n<p>One of those blog writers wrote a blog this week that I really needed to hear. \u00c2\u00a0You can <a href=\"http:\/\/urbanservant.blogspot.com\/2013\/01\/lessons-in-parenting-wild-things.html\" target=\"_blank\">read it here<\/a>. \u00c2\u00a0Today I am praying that the Lord takes away all the advice I&#8217;ve been given about parenting my kids from my mind and that I only hear Him. \u00c2\u00a0That He removes all the guilt. And my need for resolution. \u00c2\u00a0That He allow me to remember that I can&#8217;t do anything without His strength. \u00c2\u00a0That I see this life as freedom and not bondage. \u00c2\u00a0That I don&#8217;t worry about those helper voices who don&#8217;t live with my children and don&#8217;t realize how damaging their advice has been.<\/p>\n<p>Please read the post if you want to understand. 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