Part of me wants to keep this post light and cheery….but the reality is that parenting my kids is hard. Â Not because of what they have done/are doing but because of what has been done to them. Â Parenting them means I need to always be “on”….always considering what the need is, not reacting to the behavior.
The past few days with just two special kids was a nice break. Â And, I’m SO excited that my big boys are going to be back. Â But big boys mean bigger behaviors….bigger needs. Â There is a part of me that dreads their return. Â How bad does that sound?! Â 🙁 Â If there are other mom’s of special kids reading this, I think you might understand. Â I pray you are out there, and are praying for me! Â I wish I had a support group of other mom’s with whom I could share these concerns….but I don’t, so I’m sharing it with you – my normal friends! 😉
Please pray
- that I can make their homecoming special – that they realize how much they were missed and loved!
- that the boys will get back into the family groove without too much testing
- that we can keep things quiet and calm during the transition back into normal routines
Thank you for supporting me in prayer!
(((HUGS))) … I will be praying.
Thank you Julie!!
Praying with you and for you and your precious family. <3 you!
Thank you CC!
I hear you Amy!! I know what you are going through having one FAS child and one ASD child. I have been thinking about getting a FAS Families of Faith group together on FB, so that we could encourage one another and find out what others do when they are overwhelmed.
My blog as you were a part of was started out of my breakdown that I had in regard to the challenges I face raising them. However, the Lord showed me Phil 4:6-8 but specifically quote 8 when I am feeling like I am losing my mind. Trying to focus on the “delight” of the day helps when there are so many challenges. I still yell, and lose my temper which I absolutely want to change, but I do think apologizing and showing my son that I too lack times of self-control helps him to see I’m not perfect, and the process of resolving issues.
I too wish I had a group (have tried to find others since we got our son)of people that I could get support from. When my son was young I found some ladies from the FASstars site and we got together at a restraunt, but I stopped getting together with them, because they told me my son would never be able to cross the street by himself and would have to be taken care of for the rest of his life. Basically, there is not hope. I was so depressed, and then a sister in the Lord told me that I need to stop listening to them because God can do miracles. I also had the genetisist that made the formal diagnosis tell me I need to stop thinking of him as “boy with FAS and think of him as Jesse”. That has always stuck with me. I do believe there is hope for our kids and we need to find their strengths and build on those and most important lead them to the cross.
One thing that has helped with us is reducing the “things” around and making our house less cluttered. My son can actually function better and so do I. I don’t know if you struggle with that like I do (our house is so small), but just thought I would throw that out.
Prayed for you and will try to remember to keep you and your kids before the Lord, I know He has a plan for each one of them.
In Him,
Denise
Denise – I’d be interested in a FAS group either on FB or Yahoo Groups (I’m more familiar with that interface). More than that – I’m DEFINITELY interested! I love Phil 4:6-8 – maybe I need to post it around my house as a reminder to me!