Even though I’m shy and an introvert, I’m a pretty open person. Pretty much, with me, what you see is what you get. I’ve talked freely about my infertility, adoptions and grief. I’ve always felt like ‘if you want to know, then I want to tell you’. I believe that I have a responsibility to educate people about infertility, adoption and grief. I want to make sure my friends and family understand the truth about these things so they can combat the myths that are out there.
But I’ve really been puzzled lately. I have been bombarded by strangers and acquaintances asking the most intimate questions. They ask about the foster home – like they are looking for something wrong! They ask about our ‘tummy mommy’ – right in front of my kids!! After I tell them JGirl’s name, they ask what her birthmom named her! Don’t they understand that if I didn’t already tell them, it’s not their business?!?
I understand people are curious – but why do strangers and acquaintances think they have ANY right to ask these questions?
Don’t worry – I’m coming up with some stock replies. I’m tired of giving answers I’m not comfortable with because I can’t think of anything else to say! If you have some suggestions (and I know there are some VERY experienced mommies reading this blog) – please feel free to give them to me!
Hmm…just wondering…is this something other mommies deal with? Are you having complete strangers/acquaintances ask you intimate questions about your family and children? Is it our culture? Does the reality tv generation feel like it’s the norm to be told everything about their neighbors?
Edited to add – NO one who reads my blog has asked a question like this – either in real life or online. These are truly people I have just met or barely know. Just in case anyone was worrying! 😉
